Catherine had been admitted to the Hospice last year, where she stayed for a few weeks before going home with the support of the Hospice in the Home team and SinglePoint. Catherine died peacefully at home, with her loved ones around her. While she had been at the Hospice, Catherine witnessed her daughter’s marriage blessing and shared her joy…

I'm not a makeup person but the Hospice staff did the makeup for me for Anna’s celebration and assisted me in dressing. It's all those little added touches that mean so much. Anna was happy to see me looking happy and content and just being the mother of the bride. The whole day was so special and I'm so happy for Josh and Anna that they had the day, although under sad circumstances. My two granddaughters were running around and playing in the garden where there are swings and a Wendy house. It really is geared up for a whole family; they are included in whatever is going on within the Hospice. 

I've been told that I have cancer. I have to focus on the positivity. Obviously there have been tears, that’s to be expected. The very positive thing is that while I was really quite poorly and didn't know what was going on, a team of doctors, nurses and others at St Helena sat down and spoke with my family and explained what was happening, so that they could deal with their emotions, and could then be supportive towards me while I was going through my emotions. That meant an awful lot to me, because to find out that I had been diagnosed with cancer and then as a parent wanting to protect my children no matter what, it would have been an absolute nightmare for me to have to tell them. 

Apparently, it's quite an intense cancer and I have weeks, which was a shock. The medical team, well everyone at the Hospice, has been absolutely wonderful. I ask a question, they give me an honest answer which is so important to me. I didn't want anything sugar coated, just want an honest answer, and they have done that.

The staff are excellent, very caring. They work with you as to what you feel that you need at that particular time. Everyone lifts you. At a sad time you can receive such happiness and joy at the same time.  The care is 24 hours. Last night I had a very bad dream and they gave me comfort, talked me through the dream, asked if I needed anything. All I wanted at that time was a slice of toast. A slice of toast was given to me. It was about one o’clock in the morning, how wonderful is that? 

The food cannot be faulted from the kitchen. They're more than happy to make things for you. All the carers here are lovely, and they do the most amazing milkshakes. Chocolate milkshake, fantastic. Banana milkshake. I had a coffee milkshake yesterday. Everyone has their own special skill which they bring in.

I really cannot say enough about how wonderfully St Helena has helped me personally, my whole family, and within such a short period of time which has been very much a rollercoaster for all of us. The whole team has pulled together to help the family, to help me, and I know they do it for everyone. The fact that they're able to manage my medication and have said I am well enough as I can be to go home and be at home if that is my wish, I just feel so fortunate.

Anything anyone can do to assist St Helena please, please, please do it. Buying something from one of the charity shops, putting a bit of money into a pot, it's things like this that mean so much and adds to the coffers that help to keep St Helena going, and it needs to keep going, it really needs to keep going. To lose St Helena would be so detrimental to the whole community in many ways, but especially to those that need end of life care. 

Everything is so positive at the Hospice in what is obviously a very difficult, sad situation, and because I perceive myself as a positive person, that gives me extra strength to say alright, I've got this. I do have a limited time frame, it really is one day at a time. Time is short but hopefully we can fit quite a bit into those weeks. 

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