"Having a laugh about it takes its power away a little bit"
Adrian is in his early 40s and is living with cancer. In this short video (transcript below) he talks about his experience with St Helena, about keeping positive, and his 'man club'.
Here you can read the transcript:
Sleep gets in the way. Fatigue is… that’s the worst thing.
One day my parents knocked on the door and took me straight to A&E because I was quite bad by then.
You think to yourself, a day or two on the sofa and I’ll be right but obviously I wasn’t.
I’ve got a little tumour in this side in the top of my lung so that’s just started to grow again and it got into my bones so I think it was in my pelvis so I was zapped with the radiotherapy machine in there and then I forgot how to walk so I was in a wheelchair for quite a while. With physiotherapy you have to do the exercises they give you but I was really strict about it and it paid off. I’ve almost got the swagger back in my walk, almost!
I’m a take-it-in-my-stride sort of person. What happens, happens, and there’s very little you can do about it regardless of whether you’ve caused it to yourself with smoking for 20 years. But you know, we knew the risks. I find that having a chat about it, having a laugh about it takes its power away a little bit. You know, everyone’s like 'ohh cancer, really scary'. I mean yeah, it is scary, it is serious, but let’s not all get too morbid about things. You know, I’m a, I think, keep yourself busy and do things, do things you always wanted to do. You know just keeping positive and keep on going every day.
I had a respite week which is time when my parents can go off and have a little break, yeah, you can’t beat a respite week. One beautiful sunny day and they wheeled one of the people out into the garden and they had obviously their children visiting them and the grandchildren all running around in amongst the flowers in the sunshine and I thought, you wouldn’t get that anywhere else. They just pushed the bed outside, can’t even get into a wheelchair, not to worry, we’ll get you outside and I thought that’s just the image for this place, that’s exactly what you expect, and it’s what you get.
Everybody here can’t do enough for you. Someone will stick their head in the door and go ‘oh, do you want a cup of tea?’. Occasionally there’s a, I don’t know, I call it my man club when it’s just guys. I make sure I go because I bring something to the group, whatever that is and that’s what I always say to the people, the guys, just come even if you don’t really feel like it drag yourself out and come and have a chat with us.
You know, what’s the worst that can happen? You might even enjoy yourself.
My future? Who knows how long it’s going to be. I’m going to live life as best I can now.
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