"He said he wished he could pin it on him and take it with him"
The Stokes family cherishes the precious memories made laughing together in the hospice gardens with Geoff, their beloved dad, grandad and husband. Chris Stokes shares some special moments…
We’d sit in gardens for hours playing with my children or having a picnic. You’d forget why you were there. Some of our best memories were in the last three weeks while he was staying in The Hospice because everyone was so friendly.
When I used to think of a hospice, I always thought it felt like a waiting room to go and die. So it didn’t sound nice when dad first said St Helena had been in touch.
Dad started having Hospice in the Home visits and then he began attending the Men’s Cancer group each week, which he liked. He’d be picked up and go in to meet the other chaps, have a bit of a chat, get out the house. It’s the sort of thing I never would have thought dad would ever be up for doing. It allowed him to be away from home and to talk about his feelings, which dad didn’t do with us. With the other guys they could just talk about stuff that didn’t go outside the four walls; I think that must have really helped him.
Before dad died, one of the family support people suggested it may be easier for me to write a letter to dad about the things I wouldn’t talk to him about. I wrote it and then I remember thinking, how do I give this letter to him now? I felt silly, awkward, as I’d never spoken to my dad openly expressing my emotions. Mum read him the letter when he was in the hospice. He said he wished he could pin it on him and take it with him.
We have wonderful memories as a family of sitting and laughing with dad in the hospice garden. Precious moments to celebrate dad’s life and remember how happy he was in his last weeks.
Geoff Stokes in The Hospice garden
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